What's your Love Language?

Take The Love Language Test

Dr Gary Chapman says, "Everyone has a “love language,” a primary way of expressing and interpreting love and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch." Take the test and find out what your love language is.

Taking the 5 Love languages assessment was an aha moment for me, it explained why i felt loved more when my partner or other relation did certain things. Its helped me understand myself better, how to help my partner love me and how i can love my partner the way he feels loved the most.

This is what a long distance ex-boyfriend had to say; "No wonder she can't get enough of talk time. I wish you were high on "Receiving Gifts" then I'd just be sending you gifts without ever talking with you -just kidding." Yes, i know, he was very funny, lol. 

My Scores

10 Quality Time
8 Physical Touch
5 Words of Affirmation
4 Acts of Service

3 Receiving Gifts

• Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive

• Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

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Article by L.A.C.I. Ministry Life Coach NicaKan