Renew your Marriage Mindset ... The Courtship Phase

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...Contents...

• PRAYING AND FASTING FOR A RENEWED COURTSHIP PHASE MINDSET
• THE COURTSHIP PHASE DEFINED
• THE WHY OF THE COURTSHIP PHASE
• PURPOSE AND THE COURTSHIP PHASE
• NEW EMPOWERING BELIEFS
• A RENEWED COURTSHIP MINDSET

• THE HOW OF COURTSHIP
• Courtship Ideas
 

...Courtship Defined...

The goal for this phase is that the couple explore each other to determine their compatibility. At the end of this phase, the man proposes to the woman.

PART I: THE PURSUIT
The man pursues the woman and tries to persuade the woman to win her heart. This can be done as he professes his love for her, spends quality time with her in romantic activities, showers her with gifts as an expression of his love & interest, anything he can do to impress her, When the woman opens her heart to him, the couple is ready to explore an intimate relationship. 

Romance, Personalities, Acts of love, in the form of the 5 languages, must be expressed and explored in this phase. As emotions are already high, it's easy to be clouded with emotions in this phase, particularly for the woman, so logic and patience must also be applied as the couple continue to seek Gods guidance in discerning if the other is a compatible partner.  

The couple must be conscious that their fate as husband and wife has not been set in stone at this time and must continue to seek God for clarity. If it becomes clear that this union is not in alignment with God's will, the couple must trust God and pray together for peace as they continue to move on to what Gods has destined for them.

PART II: BUILDING THE FOUNDATION
The woman is now called for by the man and the couple decide to become exclusive. The objective of this step is to see the man and woman successfully build a foundation together. This includes the The Show, were the man must impress the woman with his potential to be a good husband, his strength and compatibility to protect and provide, to love and care for her. The woman must impress the man with her virtues as a potential virtuous wife. Sort of like a dance, they both convict each other of suitability. 

And later on involves going through real life challenges together. This is the most tricky phase as even this point must be open to the possibility that although they desire to be husband and wife, but if they fail this ''test'', then they are to seriously evaluate these desires. Sometimes making the decision that marriage is not for them is very easy it is clear to both they are not as compatible as they thought, while sometimes it can very painful when one partner sees it and the other doesnt. Often when the relationship is kept in God, God reveals this peacefully to each partner.

Sometimes the couple doesnt go through the friendship phase intially. They meet and they fall in love and they jump right into the exclusive phase. So it is in this part the couple must now first go through the phase of building their friendship, and then building a foundation for a marriage. These steps can be done at the same time.

Sometimes the couple skips this step and the man gets straights to the 3rd step, the proposal. Trusting the couple has built a good knowledge in the friendship phase, otherwise this is not advisable as it is a step that allows to the couple to get to see past emotions and beyond the surface, allowing the couple to really get to know if this the partner for them. 

PART III: THE PROPOSAL 
The final step ends this phase as the man proposes to his woman and asks for her hand in marriage. If they find compatibility. If the woman also feels this certainity, she accepts his hand by saying Yes. If she is not yet certain, she can take the time to pray over this and wait to get clarity from God.

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