• 10 REASONS YOU MIGHT NOT BE FINDING HIM
• 10 GREAT PLACES TO MEET G.O.V's
• OTHER GREAT PLACES TO MEET GENTLEMEN
...Prepare and Position...
If you are asking, How can i meet the right kind of guy ... The simple answer ladies is ... HE'LL COME TO YOU! Men are designed to pursue, to be the hunter. The Bible says, "He who finds a good wife, finds a good thing" (Proverbs 18:22). The bible doesn't say, She who finds a good man... So i strongly believe ladies our role is not go to looking, but to prepare and position ourselves to be found.
Ladies, we must go about life, seeking first the Kingdom of God and the rest shall be added (Matthew 6:33), including the man of which God has purposed for us.
So the question should now be, how do i seek first the Kingdom of God?You are most likely to find "ideal partners", who are partners that are equally yoked, in places around the work and things of God.
God brings ideals husband around us all the time, especially if we are his will, it is up to us to chose. Even Adam chose Eve. He didnt like any of the animals and finally God presented Eve and HE said, oh yes, i want her, this is the one ideal for me, he said.
1. Be in alignment with Gods plans for your life
2. Be busy fulfilling your purpose
Be in alignment with Gods will and finding yourself busy in the things of the Lord, you are most likely to find someone also busy in the things of the Lord. Go about doing the things of God and God will bring him to you at the right time, when you are ready. In Ruth 2:5, we learn of how Boaz saw Ruth as she went about her work. Center your life around doing the things of God, and as he too is a man of God, will spend his time doing the things of God, at the right time, your paths will come together.
3. Seek God in building the Character of a Virtuous Woman
"This
is why a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with
his wife, and they will become one flesh." (Genesis 2:24).
Be in alignment with Gods will and finding yourself busy in the things of the Lord, you are most likely to find someone also busy in the things of the Lord. Go about doing the things of God and God will bring him to you at the right time, when you are ready. In Ruth 2:5, we learn of how Boaz saw Ruth as she went about her work. Center your life around doing the things of God, and as he too is a man of God, will spend his time doing the things of God, at the right time, your paths will come together.
• Volunteering in Ministry
• Spiritual Conferences
• Spiritual Concerts
3. Seek God in building the Character of a Virtuous Woman
When
i got saved, God begun a work a in me, to prepare me to become the
woman he called me to be, who is Virtuous, a W.O.V, Woman of Virtue.
Proverbs 8:22 describes the virtues of a virtuous woman. Read Laci's
article; "Virtues of a Virtuous Woman". Become what you are attracted to and
send out your Virtuous energy and you will attract him to you.
4. Live your Life
When you are in God, living in Character and focusing on fulfilling your purpose, he will find you.
5. Build friendships
Allow yourself the time to get to know if someone is an ideal fit for you. Not everyone will can be our husband, so frienships we will build can be friendships, for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, you can make a great peer, or a mentor or mentee, or a social buddy. Be honest with yourself and them, some relationships are best served in another context other than intimate.
• What do you like
You probably wan tto meet someone you enjoy being around, spending time together in some common activities. Someone you share commonality with are most likely to be in where you like to be.
• Volunteering
The bible says a woman devoted to the Lord is known not by her dressing, but by her deeds. A good woman is known by her virtues, so seek those virtues, and you in turn become attractive and ideal.*See Articles; How to meet your ideal marriage partner.
• Spiritual Issues
• Waiting for God
• Waiting for Love Agape and Philio. Does he understand agape, for it leads the structure.
• Failing to play your part
• Looking in the wrong places
• You are not his ideal
• Fear of being unhappy ... Marriage misconceptions
WAITING FOR "THE ONE"
... The problem with Soul mates ...
• They are not real
The idea of soul mates in NOT biblical. Infact it comes from greek mythology where it is believed the believers of that god once had 2 heads, 4 arms and 4 legs and the god got made and separated them, so now one must spend his life finding their other half.
The bible doesnt say we are not complete because we were made from mans rib, or that man complete us, it says you are complete in Christ. Infact, the rib is of the few organs in humans that are known to regenerate.
• Time wasted waiting
Often people, in particular women, find themselves waiting, and they wait and wait and get tired and frustrated, so distracted from fulfilling their purpose of worshiping God and being fruitful. Some even get into the period where their "biological" ability to have children is compromised, still "waiting".
WAITING ON GOD
... Is it up to me to find my ideal marriage partner or do i wait on God for my soul mate ...
I believe one is responsible for whom they chose and the consequences that come with that choice, so chose wisely. As always, God is graceful and all things work for good for those that love that Lord, but a poor choice will create much harder journey than otherwise needed to be.
On top of the life challenges you will continue to face, you will now to deal with incompatibility and conflicts.
It is our responsibility to be connected to GOD and stay in his will, as this where wisdom and discernment come into play. We can ask God in pray to help us in meeting a person of certain qualities, but ultimately, who we chose, is up to us, and not decided by God.
Why whom you marry matters ...
Wait a minute I dont understand ... Why are you being mad me at for being me? I thought you married me because you liked who i was??? ... Now why are you trying to change me??? ... Unless you married me for something you thought i was ??? ... or was it my fault that i was trying to impress you so i showed you the man you wanted to see??? ... Only had she waited long enough to see his true character and decided to marry or not to marry him ... and atleast if she did, she would have known,what she getting into, and with him she getting into it with ... Had they also realised who they are eventually does come up and is necessary for things to go smoothly.
... GODs part ...
Paul tells us the realities of marriage as being problematic, so its obviously wise, to seek Gods input, and BE PATIENT IN WAITING for him to show IF THEY MAKE AN IDEAL PARTNER for us.
• Alignment
• Discernment
Abrahams servant said God please help me to pick a good one, please give me a sign. Ask God to to help REVEAL the true qualities of person, helping you control your feelings because feeling arent facts and can easily distract you from seeing reality, etc.
... Playing your Part ...
God talks of marriage as, YOU finding ..."IF YOU FIND a good wife, then you have found a good thing." or "A good wife blesses her husband."
God RARELY specifically told someone whom to marry, and if ever he did, it was for the bigger picture of nation, like with Hosea and Gomer. Even with Mary and Joseph, Joseph had already FOUND and CHOSEN Mary, as they were already engaged, God confirmed it.
When LOOKING FOR a wife for Issac, Abraham didn't just say, we will wait for God to send us the wife he has planned for my son, he said GO OUT and FIND him a wife, and he says, God will go ahead of you to find "A" wife for my son, not "THE" wife.
Many people in the bible often picked their wives by choosing what they liked about her, Jacob says Rachael was prettier than her sister, so he loved her, of course among other qualities, but it was still 'A" choice, "HIS" choice.
Mama Naomi gave Ruth some tips on how to position herself... and remember Boaz saying, bless you for YOU didn't decide to end up going for some younger or richer man, (implying it was her choice), and if the other guy was not willing to marry her (implying it would be up to this man to decide), he would (implying his choice). Notice, at no one point did he say we will wait to see if God confirms if you are "THE ONE", but i am sure he would gone to prayer to seek Gods guidance as he would hve done in every other decisions of his life, especially one as important as this.
5. Build friendships
Allow yourself the time to get to know if someone is an ideal fit for you. Not everyone will can be our husband, so frienships we will build can be friendships, for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, you can make a great peer, or a mentor or mentee, or a social buddy. Be honest with yourself and them, some relationships are best served in another context other than intimate.
• What do you like
You probably wan tto meet someone you enjoy being around, spending time together in some common activities. Someone you share commonality with are most likely to be in where you like to be.
• Volunteering
The bible says a woman devoted to the Lord is known not by her dressing, but by her deeds. A good woman is known by her virtues, so seek those virtues, and you in turn become attractive and ideal.*See Articles; How to meet your ideal marriage partner.
...10 Reasons why you might not be finding him...
• Waiting for "The One"• Spiritual Issues
• Waiting for God
• Waiting for Love Agape and Philio. Does he understand agape, for it leads the structure.
• Failing to play your part
• Looking in the wrong places
• You are not his ideal
• Fear of being unhappy ... Marriage misconceptions
WAITING FOR "THE ONE"
... The problem with Soul mates ...
• They are not real
The idea of soul mates in NOT biblical. Infact it comes from greek mythology where it is believed the believers of that god once had 2 heads, 4 arms and 4 legs and the god got made and separated them, so now one must spend his life finding their other half.
The bible doesnt say we are not complete because we were made from mans rib, or that man complete us, it says you are complete in Christ. Infact, the rib is of the few organs in humans that are known to regenerate.
• Time wasted waiting
Often people, in particular women, find themselves waiting, and they wait and wait and get tired and frustrated, so distracted from fulfilling their purpose of worshiping God and being fruitful. Some even get into the period where their "biological" ability to have children is compromised, still "waiting".
WAITING ON GOD
... Is it up to me to find my ideal marriage partner or do i wait on God for my soul mate ...
I believe one is responsible for whom they chose and the consequences that come with that choice, so chose wisely. As always, God is graceful and all things work for good for those that love that Lord, but a poor choice will create much harder journey than otherwise needed to be.
On top of the life challenges you will continue to face, you will now to deal with incompatibility and conflicts.
It is our responsibility to be connected to GOD and stay in his will, as this where wisdom and discernment come into play. We can ask God in pray to help us in meeting a person of certain qualities, but ultimately, who we chose, is up to us, and not decided by God.
Why whom you marry matters ...
Wait a minute I dont understand ... Why are you being mad me at for being me? I thought you married me because you liked who i was??? ... Now why are you trying to change me??? ... Unless you married me for something you thought i was ??? ... or was it my fault that i was trying to impress you so i showed you the man you wanted to see??? ... Only had she waited long enough to see his true character and decided to marry or not to marry him ... and atleast if she did, she would have known,what she getting into, and with him she getting into it with ... Had they also realised who they are eventually does come up and is necessary for things to go smoothly.
... GODs part ...
Paul tells us the realities of marriage as being problematic, so its obviously wise, to seek Gods input, and BE PATIENT IN WAITING for him to show IF THEY MAKE AN IDEAL PARTNER for us.
• Alignment
• Discernment
Abrahams servant said God please help me to pick a good one, please give me a sign. Ask God to to help REVEAL the true qualities of person, helping you control your feelings because feeling arent facts and can easily distract you from seeing reality, etc.
... Playing your Part ...
God talks of marriage as, YOU finding ..."IF YOU FIND a good wife, then you have found a good thing." or "A good wife blesses her husband."
God RARELY specifically told someone whom to marry, and if ever he did, it was for the bigger picture of nation, like with Hosea and Gomer. Even with Mary and Joseph, Joseph had already FOUND and CHOSEN Mary, as they were already engaged, God confirmed it.
When LOOKING FOR a wife for Issac, Abraham didn't just say, we will wait for God to send us the wife he has planned for my son, he said GO OUT and FIND him a wife, and he says, God will go ahead of you to find "A" wife for my son, not "THE" wife.
Many people in the bible often picked their wives by choosing what they liked about her, Jacob says Rachael was prettier than her sister, so he loved her, of course among other qualities, but it was still 'A" choice, "HIS" choice.
Mama Naomi gave Ruth some tips on how to position herself... and remember Boaz saying, bless you for YOU didn't decide to end up going for some younger or richer man, (implying it was her choice), and if the other guy was not willing to marry her (implying it would be up to this man to decide), he would (implying his choice). Notice, at no one point did he say we will wait to see if God confirms if you are "THE ONE", but i am sure he would gone to prayer to seek Gods guidance as he would hve done in every other decisions of his life, especially one as important as this.
...10 Great Places to meet G.O.V's...
Some ideas on where to meet Christian Gentlemen Of Virtue...
1. At Church
2. Church Events; such as Church conferences,
3. Christian Social Sites; Facebook groups, christian dating sites
4. Social Activities; Park, Sports Club e.g. Tennis, Golf, Polo, Chess clubs etc
5. Social Events; Sports games,
6. Charity Events; Benefit Balls, Community Volunteer Events
7. Out and About; Restaurants, Libraries, Grocery Stores etc
1. At Church
2. Church Events; such as Church conferences,
3. Christian Social Sites; Facebook groups, christian dating sites
4. Social Activities; Park, Sports Club e.g. Tennis, Golf, Polo, Chess clubs etc
5. Social Events; Sports games,
6. Charity Events; Benefit Balls, Community Volunteer Events
7. Out and About; Restaurants, Libraries, Grocery Stores etc
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| Meet at the park |
...10 Other Places to meet Gentlemen...
In the midst of places to met gentlemen, you might just meet a Gentleman of Virtue. SOCIAL CLUBS
• Private Country Clubs; Tennis, Polo etc especially in gated communities
• Polo Clubs. Polo Stables. Polo Grounds. Polo Events
• Yatch clubs
PRIVATE EVENTS
• Sports Tournaments; Tennis, Polo etc
• Private parties after major sporting events like the golf tournament
• Large fund raisers for national level politicians
OTHER
• Fine restaurants where the political ruling class go after work
• Expensive Hotels in Town
• Club rooms at the larger airports
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| Meet at Benefit Balls |
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